To a USA young man surprised that intactivism exists | consa's Blog

A growing number of North American women of child bearing age find routine infant circumcision disgusting and sexually weird. That's simply a fact. And such women are not afraid of saying what they think on the internet. A result is that you often can't get away with being pro-circ, or saying that circ doesn't matter, on the internet. This recently happened to you. I am writing to you because these women did not take the time to explain things dispassionately to you.

The brothers, boyfriends, and husbands of most adult American and Canadian women were circumcised at birth last century without local anesthesia. This fact disgusts a lot of women.

Do men remember their infant circumcisions? Rarely, maybe never. Does this lack of memory make circ less evil? No; read on to see why. Does circ detract from male sexual pleasure? Yes, simply because the parts of the male body sacrificed to circ are incredibly rich in nerves. Do many circed men have acceptable adult sex lives? Yes. Do some men have serious sexual problems because they were circumcised as infants? Yes, and American research has not been honest about this possibility. Are there circumcised men who are quite content with their sex lives when they are 20-30, and who are miserable at 50-60? Yes. Think of a circumcised penis as being like a whiteboard marker whose cap has been lost. Over time, it dries up.

Are there women who have slept with both kinds of men, noticed that intact partners are more fun, and are willing to share that conclusion on the internet? Yes. Are there women who have been intimate only with circed men, but have nevertheless concluded that intercourse with circed men is not all that intercourse can and should be? Yes. This category includes women who are chronically sore after intercourse, women whose lubrication is not as ample as they would like, and women who simply climax erratically. Are there young American women who complain that a lot of their sexual experiences have been too rough: too hard, too fast, too deep? Yes. Have some women in this situation concluded that circumcised penises are to blame? Yes.

The deep reason why millions of American parents continue to circumcise their baby boys is that to them, the natural penis looks weird. They fear that an intact boy will be mocked in the locker room, and rejected in the bedroom when he begins his sex life. I lived this fear until I met my wife in my late 30s. I was 34 when I read for the first time that the obsession of American parents and obstetrics to make the penis bald was simply a major mistake. I later discovered that this mistake was sexual as well as medical. American sex education and prenatal classes, and the information on human sexuality available in your typical mall bookstore, is not at all honest about the content of this post. And the reason for that is the common sense evident one: if what I say is correct, American routine circumcision is a medical mistake and sexual disaster of the first order.

Are there American parents who have circumcised one or more sons, then have been shattered to learn what I write above? Yes. Do some of these parents find it difficult to forgive themselves and move on? Yes. Are there women who circed their baby boys, then became major anti-circumcision advocates years later? Yes. Marilyn Milos and Rosemary Romberg are cases in point.